How to avoid irritation through thought process.

We have been irritated about something at some time or the other. So anger has become human nature. 

• Is it correct to have irritation ? 
• Can we avoid   irritation with the help of a thought process?

By the help of these two questions, I will be sharing my experience with you. 

There is a very deep belief system in our mind, that by irritation or anger we can influence others.

• This misconception has come in us from this society. Because we have seen only one side of irritation . That is fear. We are more affected by fear and many people work more due to fear.

Is it correct that a person loses his temper, that is,  irritation , to change the situation.

The ultimate truth is that  irritation is not our basic quality. It is a spark created by outside circumstances.

This means that we are not in our normal state. Therefore, the situation has occupied us. 

When we are not all in our position, then how will we improve the situation by irritation or anger?

• The main reason for irritation is that things have not happened according to us.

• Hence irritation acts on the mistake made in the past.

• Is it right to be Irritation and Anger on what has passed?

Relation between irritation and thought process.

Being irritate means that the first step of our life is in the wrong direction.

That is, there is no coordination between our body and mind.

If we have ever listened carefully to our Inner Life software, then there is no question of irritation.

The simple rule is to understand the origin of irritation.

To understand irritation, it is important to understand the state of mind.

1.  State of mind
2.  State of relationship

1:State of mind

State of Mind is our basic quality. It does not depend on outer circumstances .

As the quality of seed determines, what will the tree be like?

Similarly, the quality of our state of mind determines how we react in every situation. How do Irritation take place?

It simply means that our state of mind is unbalanced. The rule of state of mind applies equally to every place and every situation.

2: State of relationship

The main reason for our initiation is that we follow the rule of state of relationship.

In all of us, this is the first quality of the body, achieving comfort and the quality of the mind, adopting the way to work in the simplest way.

But till we do not know our real identity, then we behave on the state of relationship instead of the state of mind.

• As a result of this, we selfish, have arrogance and only want our own good. This is all based on self-contentedness and is the main cause of irritation

Therefore, according to the location or situation, our mind set keeps changing and we keep on irritation. 

Due to the state of relationship, our behavior varies in different situations. We get irritated as a result.

What are the factors affecting irritation?

Here we discussing three reasons of irritation.

(a) Ego

(b) Be judgmental

(c) To expectation

(a) Ego :

The one who is scared, scares others, that is, opposes them. Because the mind of all of us has been educated in such a way that a work is done right only by being angry with others.

Like we have enmity with this existence. This type of thinking makes us isolated. These types of problems increase the irritation, not the solution.

• Iago arises due to fear. Fear is the main cause of Ego.

• I am a man or a woman with whom I make my identity. It is also Ego in depth.

Here we are talking broadly about Ego .Which causes Irritation in Daily Life.

We all know ourselves as body and mind. Apart from this, we consider our identity to be limited. Do not know your true identity. Therefore, there is a problem of Ego.

• Attachment causes Ego. Ego is generated from the image that we have made in front of the world. Attachment to anyone is a type of Ego.

for example .

If someone does not listen to us, then we become disturbed. As a result, irritate occurs. That is ego.

Results due to having an ego heart.

• We become unstable.

• We behave unbalanced.

• Gradually our Attitude starts changing. Our nature begins to be irritable.

Solution: There are basic keys to eliminate ego.

1. Self Respect
2. Acceptance and approval
3. Assertiveness

1: Ego's Opposite is Self Respect.

• Self Respect means Stable Done. That is, reaching the original state of  mind.

• Second, our priority and attentions should be on self and not on others.

• Stable means that no matter what you say or not, it should not make any difference to you.

2: If Ego is to be abolished, then acceptance has to be adopted.

Everyone should acceptance and Approval. It means how to respond right way? It this responsibility. 

The more we continue to accept our responsibility, the more we will continue to acceptance and approve others. 

This is the solution to end the ego. As a result, the control of irritation will occur.

3: Assertiveness:

If we remain open in our thoughts, then we adopt assertiveness. It is a process of coming together in existence. 

Existence in response, opens the doors of love, harmony, prosperity, peace and success for you.

• Assertiveness helps in working happily. By doing this, the state of mind is calm and in control. The seed of balance thrives in the State of Mind.

• Focus on how to change the things?

Assertiveness is only to be talked about further. Anger always talks about past.

Assertiveness will not go to the past, will not attack the person directly. This will not cause irritation.

Assertiveness is a skill regularly referred to in social and communication skills training. 

being assertive means being able to stand up for your own or other peoples' rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive or passively accepting wrong.

(b) Judgmental.

We often judge each person.  Knowingly and unknowingly we keep on reacting to all of us, as if we are very big judges.

We think that I am good, but in everyone else, we see some evil or deficiency, it also becomes a rule.

• While being judgmental is our biggest weakness.

• First of all, we are not the judge of anywhere.

Result

• We walk with a label on everyone, while this is not right.

• The same law is true in nature, that there is always change.

Similarly our cells change every hour. As a result, everything keeps on changing.

• Every person's behavior also varies. Therefore one should not be judgmental.

• Our Judgmental promotes our ego and hurt the ego.

According to us, if no one has said what we say, then we become judgmental, that he does not believe us. Whereas truth is something else.

(c) Expectation is not to be maintained.

When we cannot fulfill our own expectation by ourselves, then how can one fulfill our expectation.

Expectation basically means that the work or things are according to us. 

While everyone knows that each person's thinking and understanding is different. So no work can be done in the same way.

• The second aspect is that we reach the result before all the work is over. That is why we become irritable due to not getting the thought or expected result.

• So never leave your specialty.

• Never copy someone's behavior. We mostly copy the behavior of others. never do .

• Learn to forgive yourself and others. This clears our mind. So we do not become irritate.

We are angry and irritate for the past. The past is gone and we are getting irritated. Is it right?

We have Present in our hands. New seed is to be sown in present.

What are the best easy methods to avoid irritation? 

Working at every level requires different types of skilled, skilled qualities. Not all qualities are within us. 

Yes, some quality is best in us, but we decide to prove ourselves everywhere, that my way of working is right. This is the main cause of irritation.

I too have lost my temper several times, but I am sharing my experience with you that how can we control our irritation?

Thinking is the first step and taking action is the second step. Therefore, we can avoid irritation with two ways through the thought process.

1.  Stable State of Mind.

A weak mind works too hard. Change the rule by doing this list of state of mind.

Examples

• I'm wrong. This thought always produces gilt feeling. Reduces self-respect. This thought to be wrong.

• You are wrong. This thought is also incorrect. This thinking hurts the self-esteem of  another. And hurts our state of mind.

That is, promotes the ego. Hence I am right and you are also right. Both are doing their work in the best way. Just the way of thinking is different.

According to the famous psychologist,  irritation   is nothing but a feeling of inferiority. Is the way to protect your feeling. 

Anger is the fact that we are not able to get others to do what we want.

• No matter how big the situation is? Always think that my thought is my creation.

• My position is Stable. Whatever the behavior and manner of others, it is their own. But we have to take care of ourselves.

• The situation is like a Switch Button like light is on / off. So why should I give my control button to others? So keep your control button with you.

This will keep your state of mind calm and blissful. Your state of mind will become stable.

To be happy, we have to learn to remain silent even from the mind. Training to smile from within. No matter what the situation?

Pray for goodness from the heart for all. Create a Thought Generate of happiness and bliss for all. When our vision gets bigger, we naturally stop being irritated.

If you are in a role of boss.

So it depends on you, that you get your subordinate to work by getting irritated or stable.

• It all depends on you only. The choice is yours.
• In both cases, your body and mind will have the same effect. Like you and Thought Generate will do.

2:Maturity

One person is never right and the other person is not Wrong.Rather, each person has a different way of thinking about one thing differently.

For example:

Person A and also Person B are sitting facing each other. Both are looking at the book placed on the table in Opposite Direction. 

Therefore, there is also an idea of ​​both of them looking at each other in Opposite Direction.

• Both have different ways of thinking. Both have different views. Both mean the same thing in different ways.

• Both are right, not they are wrong. Both are right in their own place. Both have their own Self Respect.

Therefore, no one can differ in logic from you. But you should always respect the other in every situation. The irritation will go away forever.

Before understanding others, you have to understand yourself. We will be happy when others walk according to us. This view is incorrect.

• Are we ready to change according to people?

• Are we ready to give our remote control to others? The same thing applies to others, so accept others. The journey and rights of each are different.

Our Lens are different from other Lens:

How to change our perceptions and thought process about irritation ?

There are two best easy methods which can change our perception. 

1. According to me 
2. Accepting to others whatever their perception ...

That is, it is natural for us to differ in our way of thinking and the way of thinking of others.

Because we are Unique Personality. Our thinking towards anyone should be right.so always use According to me:

Like, start saying everything according to me. Only then you will be free from irritation by giving your reasoning to maturity.

• Like she is very beautiful, according to me.

• According to me on this issue it should be …….

Acceptance:

When you accept someone. That is, as it is. As a result, your state of mind is stable. In this way, living the life of irritation free becomes the goal of life

• To understand and empower others. Not to improve others.
• Never try to change others.
• Everyone learns from their experiences and stumbles, rather than on what someone says.
• Anger is that we are not able to get others to do what we want.
• Do not make yourself weak with these thoughts or else you will be cremated here and you will have to suffer the consequences.
• My tolerance power is 60% and if they are 80%, then the decision will be different. We cannot create someone's personnel account.

Our role is to show their capacity, to show the capacity of the sacrament in them.

One who will be detached by the situation gets a lot of options for problems. Those who get attached to desertions get grief. This is the reason for irritation.

In Conclusion :

Focus on how to change the thoughts? Always have to talk in the present. Before doing anything, you have to do your protection like doctors use masks and sensitize the equipment's before the surgery.

Don't keep trying to change the people. Our reaction is the main problem, our problems are not the real problem. by the use of these basic thought process we can get rid of irritation easy way.